You probably have as many questions as she does.
Knowing is Empowering
- What options do I have?
- What part can I take in the decision?
- What if I don't want this baby?
- What if she doesn't want the baby, but I do?
- How can I help her?
You may have discovered that she is pregnant (or she thinks she may be pregnant). This may or may not be positive news for you at this time. You might be experiencing anger or feeling overwhelmed and wondering how to handle this situation. Not sure what to do?
Don't get caught wondering before you are sure. A missed period doesn't necessarily mean she is pregnant. We can help you both know for sure. Encourage her to make an appointment at New Beginnings where she can receive a pregnancy test and ultrasound, at no cost, so you can understand her options.
Listen to Each Other
The situation involves more than just you. An unplanned pregnancy is difficult for both of you and is difficult to talk about. You are both parents of this unborn child regardless of your relationship status.
This is a time she needs your support. This is not a time to show anger or to run and hide. Encourage her to make an appointment at New Beginnings where she can receive a free pregnancy test, free ultrasound and understand her options.
Take Time to Be Informed
Help her to get the information she needs. What are your options? Seek good advice and don't rush out and make a decision you will both regret. Don't leave questions unanswered. Get all the information you need to make the best decision.
Express Yourself Honestly
Allow her to do the same. It's normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.
The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
Don't Pressure Her
Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team.
You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to her as well as give her your thoughts.
Although your legal rights are limited, your influence is vitally important.
At New Beginnings there are people to talk to who understand how challenging this time is for you. They won't judge you or make you feel guilty. They can help you understand your responsibilities and your choices. They want to help you work through the questions and concerns that you might have.